Psychologists claim that the top four reasons for a failed relationship are: not making the relationship a priority, selfishness and narcissism, spurts of anger and rage, and cheating. But, even for those who are faithful, stable, and dedicated to the relationship, falling in love is scary for a lot of people. We fear falling out of it, or worse, our partner falling out of it.
Taylor Myers, a 25-year-old poet from Dayton, Ohio, agrees, and shared a raw, emotional piece about relationships ending and people falling out of love.
Simple statements throughout the poem are weighed down with fear and sorrow:
Most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it.
The stark contrast of two people blissful and in love, and the crumbled remains of the relationship, struck a chord with many readers:
Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.
People were moved and felt the same pain she did:
After the poem made the rounds on the internet and went viral, Myers elaborated.
In the poem, she talks about a class on relationships that she took in high school, Relationships for Life. She found the class invaluable, and credits it for how she handles relationships — all relationships, including friendships.
Myers also believes that the class taught the importance of communication:
That class without a doubt molded the way I view and handle all my relationships, romantic or otherwise. And I think they’re all healthier and more transparent because of that class. It should be taught everywhere.
She added in the second follow-up post that she “left out the most beautiful part of the class,” which was when the teacher prompted the students to question and define what love was.
This warm, positive lesson on love went viral once again and touched even more people:
She continued and came full circle, writing that the thing that once scared her more than anything else no longer does. But Myers never expected her poem to blow up at all, much less receive more than one million likes.
She is astonished by the reaction people have had to her writing:
The reaction blew me away. I still get messages weekly from people telling me how it affected them, how it saved their relationship, or how it gave them the strength to walk away from someone that was holding them back.
Hearing that love is a choice had a positive impact on countless people, including couples.
The second post resonated even more than the first:
Some people said reading this made them re-evaluate reasons they get angry with their spouse, and allowed them to let go of insignificant issues that don’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Some commented that the first step to reviving a relationship is recognizing certain behaviors:
We’ve all been there, haven’t we?
Others felt this, and have chosen to love someone who isn’t willing to do the same:
This applies to anyone — a partner, a best friend, a family member, or even an ex:
Yes, this. People also don’t seem to understand and/or accept that how you treat your ex-spouse is also a choice.
— Tee, a name I call myself (@TerriblyMe) August 19, 2018
One man with decades of marriage under his belt confirmed that, as long as you choose to look for the stars, they are almost always bound to be there.
Grabbing a box of tissues, be right back…
If this young poet and her emotional roller coaster taught us anything, it would be that love can be difficult and terrifying, but worth it to those who choose to keep the flame alive.
Wise words, Taylor.