Polyamorous Party Planner Sets Sights On Organizing The World’s Largest Orgy

WARNING: CONTENT OF A SEXUAL NATURE

A polyamorous events planner who is helping to organise the world’s largest orgy, has told how she aims to smash the Japanese record of 500 revellers, by having 1,000 people at the marathon sex party.

This will be the most ambitious occasion yet for Pearl Derriere, 29—who stopped counting her sexual partners when she hit 100 at age 21. She started her first events company, Menage Life, in 2016 with a DJ pal, inspired by attending numerous private sex parties.

An advocate of the “sex positive” movement, which embraces safe and consensual sexual experimentation, Pearl, of Denver, Colorado, who is now working as a freelancer, said:

“People may think my lifestyle makes me greedy for sex, but that isn’t the case.”

She continued: 

“But I stopped counting how many people I’d slept with once it hit over 100!”

“People assume sex parties are something which have surfaced very recently—the truth is they have always existed, they’ve just been underground and under our noses the whole time.”

Pearl, who will attend the mass orgy—the date and location of which remain a closely guarded secret within the sex positive community—worked in an insurance company before moving into the sex industry in 2012.


Pearl during a racy burlesque performance (PA Real Life/Collect)

In her office job, she claims to have been sent to HR because her relationship with a married woman at work had made her co-workers “feel uncomfortable,” despite her girlfriend’s husband giving it his blessing.

Still openly polyamorous—enjoying a relationship with more than one partner—she currently lives with her boyfriend Dan Patrick, 35, who works in hospitality, and visits her “homemaker” girlfriend Tomi Tailey, 30, in Dallas.

Her partners, who have shared a bed with her, but have not had sex together, are also happy for her to have casual liaisons with other people at orgies.


Dan Patrick, Pearl’s supportive boyfriend, posing for a selfie (PA Real Life/Collect)

Explaining her open relationship, Pearl, who lost her virginity to a boy at 16 and had her first group sex the following year, said:

“For me, I could never imagine one person fulfilling my every physical and emotional need for the rest of my life, which is why being a poly swinger suits me.”

“I may go to a sex party with Dan and sleep with someone else, sometimes even a friend I know, but it doesn’t bother him, that’s just how our relationship works. We don’t need to feel insecure, because we know our value to each other.”

“My boyfriend is human and understands me and my needs. As long as I’m safe, sane and everything is consensual there’s no problem!”


Pearl wearing merchandise from her previous company Menage Life (PA Real Life/Collect)

She continued:

“We both get immense satisfaction knowing each other’s sexual, physical and mental needs are being met.”

Pearl, speaking as Louis Theroux has launched a new series of BBC documentaries, the first of which focused on polyamory, first discovered her love for orgies and non-monogamous relationships when she was working as a burlesque dancer in 2012.

Hired to perform at a private sex party—the first one she properly attended—that spring, although she had engaged in group intimacy before, she had never seen what a real orgy looked like.


Pearl Derriere taking a selfie for her Instagram fans (PA Real Life/Collect)

She said:

“The moment I walked in, I saw someone involved in an intimate act and was caught off guard a bit, but I soon realised it was just like any other party, with people chatting and dancing, too.”

“People could have sex and be intimate, or just watch if they wanted to.”

“I made plenty of friends that night and have been enthralled by it all ever since.”


Pearl Derriere on a Burlesque night out (PA Real Life/Collect)

But, despite her liberated approach to intimacy, Pearl has stringent rules when it comes to orgies—always providing condoms for guests and making safety her priority.

She said:

“I get tested for STIs—sexually transmitted infections—every 6 months and the results are always clear.”

“To make sure that people are accounted for and not too drunk and messy, we only let people in to parties if they come with a friend or partner. That way, if someone passes out or makes other people uncomfortable, we can alert whoever they came with.”


Pearl during a racy burlesque performance (PA Real Life/Collect)

She added:

“Being filmed is also a worry at orgies—so no one is allowed in with recording devices or mobile phones. We need a trusting environment for everyone to have fun.”

Luckily, Pearl’s mum is non-judgemental about her daughter’s choice of career and is very close to her. She has been less open with her dad, who thinks she is an ordinary events planner.

And while Pearl’s life revolves around the sex industry, she admits that, a fan of bondage, she usually only makes love to her boyfriend and girlfriend once a week.

“I want our event to create a sex positive revolution”

She said:

“Jobs and projects going on get in the way of my sex life sometimes.”

“By the time I’m done with work I just want to sit down and read or watch TV!”

Pearl, who goes to orgies once a month, is now hoping that the sexual extravaganza she is planning may lead to a “sex positive revolution.”


Pearl playing kinky dress-up (PA Real Life/Collect)

She said:

“I’m not sure what will happen, but I just know I want to be part of something I consider historically monumental to the sex positive community.”

“For the most part, our community is hidden, no one wants to be ‘outed’ to other people as someone who attends these events, so it can be very isolating.

“I hope our huge event can change that and we can lead a sex positive revolution!”

A version of this article originally appeared on Press Association.