Obituaries usually honor a loved one’s life and the people they’ve left behind. That wasn’t the case for Kathleen Dehmlow, who passed away on May 31, 2018. Someone close to her wrote a scathing obituary that will surely leave a tarnished memory of the late Dehmlow — not that it doesn’t sound like she deserved it.
Kathleen Dehmlow sounds like a colorful old woman, the type they write biopics about. Or maybe a Lifetime movie. The obituary starts off normal, with a brief introduction to her early life and her children, Gina and Jay. Born on March 19, 1938, Kathleen winds up not quite fitting the bill of the typical compassionate and sensitive Pisces.
“In 1962 she became pregnant by her husband’s brother Lyle Dehmlow and moved to California,” the obituary continues. That’s not so bad, right? It’s just stating a turning point in her life, maybe one that gently nudged her in a different direction. There’s an obituary for the old lass, so clearly there aren’t any hard feelings.
GOOD HEAVENS ALMIGHTY. This is why you gotta be a good person; because you can't have people waiting to flex big disrespect on you when you can't defend yourself lol https://t.co/lVIPH6ksql
— BlocBoy EJ (@tokthadon) June 5, 2018
60 years ago? That just means she had 60 years to try and fix that mistake!
— La Chingona Que No Para De Chingar (@_Spamiglo_) June 6, 2018
“She abandoned her children, Gina and Jay who were then raised by her parents in Clements, Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Schunk,” the obit continues. It’s at about this point that readers have to stop and question whether or not the obituary is actually real. So far, nobody has admitted to creating a fake obit, which makes the closing statement even more shocking. “She will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her.”
It takes courage to tell the truth. Just because someone is dead, doesn’t mean they become a saint, and there’s no rule saying a child must forgive an abusive, unloving parenthttps://t.co/0eSKoSVnbG
— hereforthedoughnuts (@groth_rubini) June 5, 2018
Moral of story: Do better by the people who will one day write your obituary. https://t.co/OgUTz3Vp0G
— Mike Waters (@MikeWatersSYR) June 5, 2018
Not one mistake. She made the mistake every year her children remained abandoned.
— Patricia Lopez (@StribLopez) June 5, 2018
Not sure I would call having your brother in law’s child and abandoning your other children “a mistake”. ♂️
— gojo (@joe_w5) June 5, 2018
Now that’s a mic-drop moment if ever there was one. Twitter user Stu (@RandBallsStu) came up with an even better closer for the obituary that would likely fly over Dehmlow’s grave if it weren’t safe to assume her final resting place is nothing more than a cardboard box.
Paragraph 1: ok
Paragraph 2: ok
Paragraph 3: wait
Paragraph 4: OH
Paragraph 5: *airplane flies overhead with a banner reading WELCOME TO HELL MOM* pic.twitter.com/ppV45htrda
— Stu (@RandBallsStu) June 5, 2018
The shocking nature of the obituary has received some backlash, with writer David Bellavia tweeting “Let us say half of these allegations are true. 100% unnecessary. Shame to those that published this trash.”
Let us say half of these allegations are true. 100% unnecessary. Shame to those that published this trash.
— David Bellavia (@DavidBellavia) June 5, 2018
Unless the public (all of us) know the whole story, who can judge? How do you know those children didn’t receive a better life in the end? Everybody makes mistakes, we are human, not perfect. To even go to that much effort to publicly shame their mother in death is just wrong.
— Sherie (@_miss_beast_) June 6, 2018
The Star Tribune spoke to an anonymous relative that confirmed the facts were true, but admitted that “there is a lot of stuff that is missing.”
“She made a mistake 60 years ago, but who hasn't?” one relative said. “Has she regretted it over the years? Yes.” https://t.co/C0REqzwubd
— Star Tribune (@StarTribune) June 5, 2018
According to Star Tribune, the twice-weekly Gazette pulled the online version and Legacy.com, an online obituary website, said it would review its standards and avoid relying solely on the newspapers.
Apparently, I will have to buy a $75 subscription to the Redwood Falls Gazette to follow all the letters to the editor that are coming.
— MyLittleBloggie (@MyLittleBloggie) June 5, 2018