Comedian Patton Oswalt’s life was forever changed after his wife, author Michelle McNamara, unexpectedly passed away in her sleep in September 2016. Oswalt himself described that period of his life as the hardest he’s ever encountered, but through his sadness came a ray of light: the following Spring, he met and fell in love with Meredith Salenger.
Though it’s impossible to replace a lost love, Oswalt and Salenger’s relationship has brought joy back into the comedian’s and his daughter’s lives in a way that was hard to come by in the months following McNamara’s passing. On November 4, Oswalt sent out a tweet celebrating their one-year marriage anniversary and it was too cute to handle:
One year ago today I married @MeredthSalenger, who stepped into this lost widower’s life, and swept him and his daughter up out of the cobwebs and into the sunlight. I will never be able to repay you, baby, but I’ll never stop trying. pic.twitter.com/Vb7yJ6xSsQ
— Patton Oswalt (@pattonoswalt) November 4, 2018
The only thing more adorable than Oswalt’s post may have been the pictures Salenger sent in response.
Oh baby. I love you so. pic.twitter.com/WNffuIwWmK
— Meredith Salenger (@MeredthSalenger) November 4, 2018
But, of course, because this is the internet, some Troll named Michael G. Galli had to pop up in the comments with a hurtful and insensitive comment.
Oswalt screen-captured the comment and called it out in a separate post, putting Galli’s foolishness on display for all the world to see.
Michael I am SO sorry if this creeps you out. My wife passed away in April of 2016. I met Meredith in May of 2017 and despite how sad I was we fell in love and married in November of 2017. I could kick myself for not checking with you first. Does this help? Lemme know! pic.twitter.com/GWYIKgovEc
— Patton Oswalt (@pattonoswalt) November 5, 2018
People were flabbergasted by Michael’s insensitivity and lined up behind Oswalt.
Ditched??????? Michael doesn’t understand how ANY of this works
— Amy Wei (@amyweisnbrgr) November 5, 2018
To anyone who’s ever been in a similar situation, Oswalt’s new relationship makes perfect sense.
My mom died a year ago. My Dad started dating a woman he knew in February 2018. They got engaged in May 2018 and will be married in February 2019. It went a little fast for me but because of your love story, I was open to it.
I believe in happiness & second chances.
— Elizabeth Thorp (@ElizabethEThorp) November 5, 2018
Mom died when I was young. Dad married a wonderful woman 30 years later. Dad is gone, but she is very dear to my & took care of my family when I had the same disease that took my mom. I wish he had met her sooner, for all of us.Many years of health and happiness to your family <3
— Lapis Lazuli (@LapisLazuliii99) November 5, 2018
My father was gone Labor Day 1984, she ended up dating a man she worked with and married him October 1985. People she knew for 20 years were angry and left our lives, father’s side never spoke to us again until recently. My stepdad is better than my bio dad was. ????❤️ Thankful.
— Christa ZacharyEstes (@czestes) November 6, 2018
Michael just doesn't ever really get it. When my grandma died, he didn't understand why my grandpa ditched her to marry my step-grandma. When I tried to explain that grandma was the cook, maid, driver, errand-runner, etc. he just called my grandpa a lazy creep…
— Syd Eberly (@Sydreena) November 5, 2018
Galli got the full Twitter-snark treatment:
Also, Michael, our dog, Norma, died a while ago. Don't worry, she was really sick. Anyway, we got a new dog, Mona. We felt bad because we thought it might make you feel creepy. Just know, I think Norma would approve. Thanks for listening, it felt good to get that off my chest.
— Jennifer Del Pozzo (@jendelpozzo) November 5, 2018
What does it say about Michael that he finds someone else's happiness to be 'creepy'?
— k. (@maggiescully) November 5, 2018
Many users began working “get approval from Michael” into their grieving rituals.
The hardest part of losing a loved one is explaining it to Michael.
— Votey McVoteface (@DerekSheen) November 5, 2018
7 Stages of Grief:
1.) Shock & Denial
2.) Pain & Guilt
3-7.) Getting Michael G. Galli's permission on everything you do after.
— Kyle Laserdog (@laserdog) November 5, 2018
Plus, he hasn’t said he isn’t still grieving. (I know, you didn’t either.) He simply fell in love again and married another wonderful woman. What a lucky man to find love twice. ❤️
— filibuster keaton ???? (@psychofan) November 5, 2018
Understanding and love are always the most important things.
How sad that he couldn't say, "I am sincerely sorry for your loss, and happy you have found joy again."
— Knancy (@FlippyO) November 5, 2018
It’s ok Michael, everyone else approved so you don’t have to worry about swaying the vote. ????
— Alex Black (@AlexandraEBlack) November 5, 2018
This is probably my fault; I signed off on the marriage but forgot to provide Michael with the paperwork.
— Kate ???????????? (@Equivo_Kate) November 5, 2018
I remember reading the essay you wrote after she had passed and it was beautiful and moving. I’m so glad that you found happiness and a new part of your family that both you and your daughter love. All the punk-ass twitter trolls can go to hell.
— Jacob Bloomfield (@Hicatron) November 5, 2018
Congratulations on re-finding your happiness, Oswalt, and don’t let the Twitter trolls get you down!
So much wrong in that tweet! A deceased spouse isn't an ex. Finding love again (which she no doubt would want) isn't "ditching" her. Even if that's how the jackass feels, there's no reason to share it with Patton.
What the hell is wrong with people?
— Paul D Storrie (@storrieville) November 5, 2018