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The world’s first legally married transgender couple have spoken about their extraordinary “multi-orgasmic” sex life – with one of them enjoying 198 orgasms in 90 minutes, simply by thinking.
“Completely compatible,” since Ginny Seaboy, 58, met her wife, Julia James, 55, through an online forum for trans women in 2009. Marrying just a year later, she went from having “zero sex drive” to enjoying intimacy beyond her wildest dreams.
Julia, of Nova Scotia, Canada, who, like Ginny has not had genital surgery, said: “I can orgasm standing up, not touching myself and even in seven seconds just by thinking about it.”
She continued: “I orgasm like a female mostly now – which means I have rolling orgasms until I get tired, rather than constant ejaculation – and can do it up to 198 times in 90 minutes, although I am a non-op trans.
“Ginny is multi-orgasmic like me, and we have been very, very lucky sexually.”
Meanwhile, Ginny, who was an Atlantic superstore manager when they met, describes Julia as her “soulmate.”
She said: “I told her we should take it slow, but I could feel myself falling head over heels – I wasn’t very good at taking my own advice!”
She added: “Now, years later, I’m still with my soulmate.
“When I found her my sex life improved dramatically, too – I didn’t even have a sex drive before.
“But I’ve never felt the need to have surgery on my genitals to be a trans woman. We are still both multi-orgasmic and our life in the bedroom is better than we ever expected.”
Despite wanting to move slowly, Julia proposed to Ginny in November 2009 by suggesting they both pose for a photo in wedding dresses as a joke – but dropping to one knee to pop the question, just as they were poised to take a snapshot.
They married in an intimate ceremony at the home of Ginny’s parents in Bedford, Canada, on 7 October 2010, with just a few relatives to cheer them on.
It was exactly a year after their first lunch date at a park near Ginny’s work, when they fell in love at first sight.
And, on discovering through online searches and public records that this made them the world’s first openly trans legally married couple, they were over the moon and keen to share their news.
In July 2005, Canada was the first country outside Europe and the fourth country in the world to pass a law allowing same-sex marriage.
With the knowledge that they could get married without any legal issue, the pair were excited to tie the knot.
Ginny, who lived as a man from 1985 to 2004, traveling the world as a bass player in over 30 country, blues, jazz, and rock bands, said: “It feels great to know we hold that title.
“It’s liberating and makes me realize we should never have to hide. We are very proud and fulfilled – I feel like it gives my life more purpose than I ever realized it had.”
Ginny is now her wife’s full-time carer, as Julia receives disability allowance because of an illness she would rather not disclose.
Growing up, Ginny wanted to be just like her mom Ruth, 79, rather than like her dad Ted, 82.
Despite saying she realized she was transgender from the age of two, it was not until 1978, when she was 17, that she decided to start publicly identifying as a woman.
Sadly, her openness did not last, as she realized it was alienating her from her musician peer group because they didn’t accept her lifestyle after knowing her as a male for many years.
And, in 1981, she decided to revert back to identifying as a man, for the sake of her work.
After that, Ginny spent years trying desperately to be someone she was not, even marrying a woman in 1985 and staying with her for 10 years, although they did not have children.
She said: “Because I didn’t stick to identifying as a woman, I reckon people thought it was just a phase that I got over.”
She continued: “But it was a lot deeper than that. I hated being that person and I didn’t want to play the role of a man, sexually.
“My marriage was fine. I had great respect for my wife, but we weren’t soul mates. We were just companions, and when we split up she understood who I really was.”
Similarly, Julia knew from the age of three that she was transgender and dreamed of herself looking like a little girl.
She also tried hard to accept herself as male – even joining the military and acting as an aggressive, masculine fighter in front of other men, but it did not work.
Julia, who left the army in 1989 and worked in business, explained: “I had a recurring dream that I was standing in an empty city, wearing a dress and finally being a girl.
“I felt glorious – I was finally me!”
She continued: “When I eventually did transition in 2007 I still felt like there was something missing, but when I found Ginny I was finally complete.”
While Ginny has always had naturally high estrogen levels and developed breasts naturally, when Julia transitioned, having first bought female hormones being sold illegally online, she then asked her doctor to prescribe them.
Neither has felt the need to have genital surgery, but they love being openly trans and hope telling their story will encourage more people like them to come out of the shadows.
Ginny said: “When we look back at our lives before we came out and started being openly trans, it feels like we’re looking at completely different people.
“Now most of our friends and families accept us and are proud that we’ve had the courage to face who we really are.
“There is no right or wrong way to be transgender. Like everyone else, we’re all different. But, like Ginny and me, I want anyone who thinks they’re trans to come out and enjoy being who they really are.”