Trump’s has remained consistently tactless for the duration of his presidency.
Following Christine Blasey Ford’s report against Brett Kavanaugh, the GOP’s sweetheart pick for the Supreme Court of the United States of America, Trump let loose a statement so vile that it actually spawned its own response hashtag.
However, though it is a common question, women (and some men) throughout Twitter come prepared with an answer–here are some of the reasons people didn’t report their sexual assaults.
#WhyIDidntReport He was a Hollywood producer. I was 15.
— Maeve (@CPTSDRecovery) September 23, 2018
#WhyIDidntReport He was my boss. I had two kids to feed, and he told me he’d fire me. HIS boss told me not to make waves, and that the company would have his back if I reported him.
— Laure Ritchie (@Laure_L_Ritchie) September 23, 2018
#WhyIDidntReport I was a young nurse. He was a powerful surgeon. I was going downstairs. He was going up. No one could hear me. I reported it to the charge nurse. She told me he brings in a lot of money. Nothing would be done. I’m now a lawyer, protecting other people’s rights.
— TulsaTeresa (@TulsaTeresa) September 22, 2018
#WhyIDidntReport because I was 14 and two of my three rapists (each grown men) were Sheriffs deputies. In back seat of car I was raped in, lay the crisp white uniform shirt and the dark green windbreaker with Sheriffs Office seal on it. 1/
— Katie Rosa (@K_Rosa17) September 22, 2018
#WhyIDidntReport Because I was 7, and he was 16. Because he said he would tell on me if I didn’t. Because he made me feel that I had to.
— Crystal Burnham (@CrystalBurnham9) September 23, 2018
#WhyIDidntReport I was four when it started, it ended when I was six. My school principal aided the man who abused me. I was too young to understand and I thought it was my fault.
— (((Ob-la-di Ob-la-da))) (@JewDyke) September 23, 2018
#WhyIDidntReport because the 1st time happened in a Doctor’s office. I had no say over my body. The 2nd time I was in shock. I had the “Immobility Response” & shoved the trauma down so deep it took decades to decipher. I didn’t officially say, “No,” so it was my fault & not rape.
— chris smith (@RantingsOfaGirl) September 23, 2018
I was 8 years old. It was on-going. It was someone in the immediate family. I was terrified no one would believe me and that it would escalate. It was so traumatizing I blocked it for three years. #WhyIDidntReport
— Esther Olson (@Kythsharra) September 23, 2018
I came out at 15..
He was someone I trusted.
He was my older brothers friend.
I though I deserved it for being feminine.
I thought I deserved it for being gay.
I thought no one would believe me because I was gay, and he wasn’t.
I thought people would blame me.#WhyIDidntReport
— CoCo (@Auntie_CoCo_) September 23, 2018
They are not believed:
So when victims finally get the courage to come forward and tell their story: up come the questions and the lack of physical “proof”… what happens next? Where do they go? What do they do? What answers do they have? #WhyIDidntReport #metoo
— Nichole (@Will_work_4_zzz) September 23, 2018
Because such things don’t happen in good families#WhyIDidntReport
— Cyndi Pauwels (@clpauwels) September 23, 2018
because abstinence only education doesn’t teach consent.
because my parents blamed me.
because no one believed i could be abused that many times and be telling the truth. #WhyIDidntReport
— st. vinski (@trisnicole) September 23, 2018
#whyididntreport It was my dad. I was 4. I was 4-16. I was scared. I was manipulated. I was brainwashed. I believed my mom would be taken away. I reported it when I was 44…after he had destroyed more young lives. Mom lives with me. Dad lives in jail. Report. Just do it.
— The Honest Daughter (@leiahia) September 23, 2018
The most exhausting thing about #WhyIDidntReport is that all victim-blamers, of every gender, already KNOW why.
They just pretend not to know.
And before our eyes, they un-see.
Forcing victims to report is never about justice. It’s about making victims go away.
— Shailja Patel (@shailjapatel) September 23, 2018
But the truth is, there’s a multitude of reasons why people don’t report their sexual assault.
— Julie reads alot (@jmariems2) September 23, 2018
We must support the survivors of #WhyIDidntReport, and address the ignorance about the neurobiology of trauma: assuming that survivors recall every detail of an assault and that survivors would report right away is inaccurate. This thread offers some facts. 1/
— Mariska Hargitay (@Mariska) September 22, 2018
#WhyIDidntReport has moved from Twitter to Facebook. Many are telling their story for the very first time. And while painful, I sense it has been cathartic as well. And men have shared their stories. I salute you all. You may have helped someone else deal with their pain.
— John Lundin (@johnlundin) September 23, 2018
And the President, who has been reported on numerous occasions for sexual assault, threatens his accusers with litigation. He knows exactly why his accusers don’t report. If they do, they are destroyed.
Because nobody believed a teenager
Because I was just ‘confused’
Because nobody saw what happened in the dressing room.
Because I was ‘over exaggerating’
Because ‘Boys will be boys’
Because I was receiving ‘mixed signals’
Because I was terrified.
— wayward hailey • minncon 41 (@WaywardHailey) September 22, 2018
To those who are sharing #WhyIDidntReport, thank you for your courage. Truth sets us free. May we have ears to hear and hearts to understand. And for our sisters who can’t share yet, we see you and honour you, too. May you feel our love.
— Sarah Bessey (@sarahbessey) September 22, 2018
Because I was drinking.
Because I was somewhere I shouldn’t have been.
Because I knew him.
Because I kept my baby.#WhyIDidntReport
— Holly Barrera (@hbis7857) September 22, 2018
I was 9 years old. A man took me away from everyone else at a birthday party and stuck his hand down my pants. He asked me if I liked it. I thought I had done something wrong. #WhyIDidntReport
— Karen Tumulty (@ktumulty) September 22, 2018
Take time today to read the stories people are sharing using #WhyIDidntReport. This is why we have to change the toxic culture around harassment and assault.
To every survivor out there: I see you. You deserved better, and we will keep fighting for justice.
— Kirsten Gillibrand (@SenGillibrand) September 22, 2018
Not to mention, it’s so traumatic. How can you blame somebody for wanting to forget about it?
Because I was afraid no one would believe me. Because I was bullied and no one ever believed me. Because I was an altar boy and my ultra-Catholic parents were proud of me. Because it was a “beloved” priest.
I am almost 47 years old. I have never told anyone. #whyIdidntreport
— Mike ️ ❄️ (@rudagert) September 22, 2018
I was afraid my husband would leave me.(He did and dated my attackers sister)
I was afraid friends would blame/ abandon me.(also accurate)
I didn’t think I would ever get justice. (I haven’t. A decade later he lives his life without repercussions for what he did)
— DavinaMillerClements (@dmillerkiller) September 23, 2018
Because he was my father
Because I felt ashamed
Because I thought it was my fault
Because I thought no one would believe a well-respected man like him would ever do anything to hurt his daughters
— Michelle Yoris (@michelleywriter) September 22, 2018
My story… #WhyIDidntReport
A man attempted to rape me on ROBOCOP 2. I fought him off, and was fired the next day. I went to the highest ranking producer – Pat Crowley – and he told me if I ever wanted to work in Hollywood again, I would tell no one.
— Paul Guyot (@Fizzhogg) September 23, 2018
#WhyIDidntReport …. I did report- and NOTHING HAPPENED! 1985- I was 18; my boss assaulted me, harassed other women repeatedly & in front of customers. 3 of us went to his superior- the mayor. Mr. Mayor says “Can’t blame him, you’re attractive ladies.” ..
— Tagz (@Tagz_66) September 22, 2018
So, America, we stand at a crossroads. Will we allow a man like that in the highest judicial office of the USA, or will we let this be a symbol that this behavior shall not be rewarded?