A recent meme, which belittles the importance of PRIDE month, has gone viral and gained traction among conservatives on Facebook and Twitter.
The meme shows side-by-side pictures of a crying soldier labeled “One Day” and an LGBTQ advocate marching in a PRIDE parade labeled “A Whole Month,” the obvious insinuation being that it’s unfair for LGBTQ to receive an entire month of recognition compared to only Veteran’s Day for soldiers.
There’s just one problem.
Despite the widespread use of the meme, soldiers actually DO have an entire month dedicated to them, as one LGBTQ Veteran wrote in a Facebook comment.
Reddit user AthenasFavoriteOwl posted an image of the exchange to the subreddit r/MurderedByWords, which features brutal comebacks which put ignorant people in their place.
In the comments, SaltyBabe could tell the people who created the meme don’t care about what they claimed to:
“It’s like those dudes who complain there’s a women’s day but no men’s day, except there is. If they, men or the military, cared about their special day they could absolutely make it know but they don’t actually care about it.”
“Veteran here, I really wish that people would understand that celebrating ones identity doesn’t have to exclude another’s. There’s always more to a person or a groups back story than you’re aware of. If we approached life with more compassion we could eliminate a lot of these unnecessary conflicts.”
“yeah everyone wants to be more important it seems so the best way they think of doing that is by trying to make other people less important?? so strange the negativity humans enjoy so much.”
“because the average a**hole is not arguing in good faith
they dont give a f— about veterans or anything really
well they do care about one thing, the idea that if gay people are allowed to be themselves in public their children will somehow be “tricked” into turning gay or whatever stupid idea they have about why people are gay
they dont give a f— about veterans, or equal rights or any of that s—. just their deep seated bigotry, hell id probably respect that person more than the average internet troll posting this s— that doesnt care one way or the other.”
“Because no one gives a s— about it until it’s women’s day. No one wants a straight pride parade until the gay pride parade comes through town. No one gives a f— about white history month until it’s black history month.
Father’s day is the only exception to this rule and it’s because father’s day is the only one that is actually about celebrating someone rather than a bigoted reaction to marginalized groups getting a voice.”
“Funny how homophobes and transphobes always need to use something else as a crutch to criticize the LGBTQ movement.
They won’t just come out and say they are against it and take the criticism from people, they tend to hide behind something like appreciation for the military or claiming things like ‘I’m tired of this being thrown on everyone’ when that statement is an indirect way of throwing their intollerant views on everyone else that comes across it. Kind of like how the phrase ‘I hate how everything is so political’ is itself a political statement.”
“I wrote this before today, and I’ll write it again. I used to be a closeted lesbian in the military. My job was literally based in the fact that I was a straight woman, and if I ever revealed otherwise, I would be asked to go home. Multiple people have basically refused me entry into a public place ever since I became an LGBT activist. The same people used to offer me discounts for my service.
Gay pride is important because every one basically gets that serving your country is a matter of pride. That you are allowed to serve your country without being ostracized. The same is not true for LGBT people.”
BoinkBoinkEtAliae, also a veteran, agreed:
“And I’m also a veteran supportive of pride month and hate when we’re used as scapegoats for this sort of nonsense.
These same people don’t give a fuck about us when their Congress members defund our support programs, when they try to pass laws to kick our trans members out and have them barred them from enlisting, or when Trump let’s his big business buddies control the VA…but they sure love us when it’s time to justify their hatred of something else.”
“Right. The big extant problems LGBTQ people face are still related (even where the solutions are potentially legislative) to discrimination and lack of social acceptance, which various events/movements like Pride could arguably help to address.
Military veterans are, by most of the population and in almost all mainstream media either side of the political spectrum, already lionized and almost fetishized (frankly to an often excessive degree).
Their problem is not lack of acceptance and respect, it’s that the same people yelling about how some guys taking a knee during the national anthem is somehow an insult to their service also have no interest in actually doing anything to look after them (unless you consider tritely and performatively running over to say “thank you for your service” to be “helpful” as opposed to actually providing for medical and psychological care).”
“Not gonna lie, I’ve never heard of NMAM until this post.”
The meme was also rejected by Twitter, who saw it for what it was:
“wHy dO oUr sOldIeRs oNlY gEt oNe dAy A yEaR aNd ThE gAyS gEt A wHoLe MoNtH??”
No hate on our soldiers tho pic.twitter.com/W5hX6cBjVF
— lex💞 (@woahf_lex) June 16, 2019
“wHy IS TheRe a WhoLE MonTh FOr GaY PEOple But THeREs ONLy onE dAy foR VeTERan’S??” pic.twitter.com/NlLw26Zuf4
— Michael Catapano (@MichaelCatapa14) June 17, 2019
national military appreciation month is in may, yall just choose not to acknowledge it pic.twitter.com/L0wnocOLBD
— ana (@anasasada_) June 11, 2019
Once you realize there actually is a month recognizing soldiers, the meme really doesn’t stand up.
i just wanna say the whole pride month thing vs the one day for veterans:
whether you agree with the pride month or not, trump issued a proclamation designating November 2018 as National Veterans and Military Families Month.
so that argument is invalid. sorry bout it
— angel 🙂 (@angelhowlettt) June 16, 2019
So, remember: before you start sharing memes hating on PRIDE, check your facts and make sure they hold up.
Chances are they really really don’t.
If you want to learn more about the history of LGBTQ PRIDE celebrations, the book We Are Everywhere: Protest, Power, and Pride in the History of Queer Liberation is available here.
You can also see a more visual history with the book PRIDE: Fifty Years of Parades and Protests from the Photo Archives of the New York Times, available here.